Caught my steroid loving boyfriend watching porn

[ceo]

sister don't worry about it
and mobster my ex wife was japanese. we divorce and now i married to mexican

 

[RoidRage69]

Guys love thick girls. I do too as long as they are strong and not just fat.

 

[Quadsweep]

I recommend you both seek counseling immediately.

 

[BodyMonster34]

sister let's do porn video together and then we can show boyfriend
Would spice up your relationship I think.

 

[JasonPriest]

i agree about counseling
It's worth a shot. I divorced my ex-wife because we had some issues similar to this. She was looking at porn.

 

[MONSTRO]

Porn should be illegal... where I live they look down on it. If you are caught looking at porn they kick you out of the church.

 

[Vadim Fedorov]

I'm not too familiar with porn but I know it can get addicting to some people.

 

[2Thick]

your boyfriend is a weirdo. oh well
find a new one

 

[e2]

you shouldn't marry him until he starts liking only your type.

 

[RickRock]

I think every guy has looked at porn. Its pretty normal and they all like to look at different stuff than what we have at home

 

[ballin2504]

He’s just watching something different

 

[25homes]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating since we were in high school. We are both now in our mid 20’s
He wanted to use steroids really badly, i said fine you can use them but know what you are doing. We got that out of the way right off the bat a year ago. Since then he has been using them and i have noticed changes to his sex drive. Some good and some bad but I can say it's very inconsistent vs. being consistent before he started messing with steroids
The clincher was the other weekend when we were at my parents house. We were looking at engagement rings on his ipad and i started saving up the pics so we would bring them up later. Once I went back in to retrieve the pictures after i saw tons of naked pics of chicks online and porn videos. To not avoid any embarrassment i didn’t bring it up till we got back home an hour later
My issue isn’t the porn itself, but my issue is the TYPES of women he was looking at. They were mature and large. Also I am a latina who is very skinny, but these women were huge with D cups and big butts. Some of them were even pregnant with piercings and tattoos all over them!
I look NOTHING like these women and it hurt my feelings. I ended up locking myself in the bedroom ignoring him for about 4 hours. He kept making up excuse after excuse which made me more angry. I told him that he wasn’t like this before steroids and i wanted him to stop using them. He is an amazing man and I am very upset he would do this to me. We planned our lives together and now he has the nerve to pull this on me, will stopping steroids cure him?

I would just chill out, dont stop smashing him or he be gone

 

[Topps_Baseball88]

Guys like thick curvy women and skinny women or women of all shapes it's nautral it doesn't mean he doesn't find you pretty or less than he just is viewing it. Also if his needs are not met he might just be trying to fill a void who knows.

 

[25homes]

I might not come back. What's Japanese for 'anal?'

Thats what I am talkin about Mobster!!!!!

 

[Supertiredwantfood]

Drop him, I would. Don't waste each other's time. Some on here are saying he's done nothing wrong and that is true in some relationships that allow that. But you were not happy. He will not stop watching porn i promise you. You need to decide if you're OK with having a husband that watches porn. If not, let him go. Plenty of men out there won't disappoint you that way.

 

[LittleTimeTrouble]

Drop him, I would. Don't waste each other's time. Some on here are saying he's done nothing wrong and that is true in some relationships that allow that. But you were not happy. He will not stop watching porn i promise you. You need to decide if you're OK with having a husband that watches porn. If not, let him go. Plenty of men out there won't disappoint you that way.

OK, serious question because you are a woman, and a pretty cool one at that. I get that watching porn is unseemly, but is it really offensive? I mean, I despise musicals and period pieces, but I just don’t watch them with my wife. I can understand if it is something that actively takes away from romantic time together, but if we are talking about a lonely guy on a business trip, there are soooo many worse ways for a man go astray.

I’m seriously interested. I know the anti-porn movement has been notable in both feminist and religious/traditional circles, on and off, for a while, but it really seems to have taken hold.

ETA: I am quite offended at the idea of watching fat people porn, but that is a different prejudice altogether.

 

[Supertiredwantfood]

OK, serious question because you are a woman, and a pretty cool one at that. I get that watching porn is unseemly, but is it really offensive? I mean, I despise musicals and period pieces, but I just don’t watch them with my wife. I can understand if it is something that actively takes away from romantic time together, but if we are talking about a lonely guy on a business trip, there are soooo many worse ways for a man go astray.

I’m seriously interested. I know the anti-porn movement has been notable in both feminist and religious/traditional circles, on and off, for a while, but it really seems to have taken hold.

ETA: I am quite offended at the idea of watching fat people porn, but that is a different prejudice altogether.

First off thanks, that's nice of you to say! This is going to be a long response to be comprehensive haha.

I can't speak for all women on this, but for me personally it comes down to respect. My father (who passed a decade ago) made sure to educate my brothers on respect for women and what it means - he knew i was too young to understand so he taught my brothers to teach me. I know I am an invaluable asset to the right man, so I don't waste my time on men that don't have respect for me.
I know god will send the right man for me when I'm ready for him. Until then I'm working on myself to be the right woman for him. I do not want a man that requires me to hold him to that standard - I want a man who holds HIMSELF to that standard. Out of respect for me, himself and god.
Another thing is the man i choose to be my husband, i also choose to be my children's father. Women seek men that resemble their fathers. Would i want my daughter to seek a man that doesn't give her the respect she deserves? Or a son that doesn't respect his woman?

Matthew 5:28 - "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Also side note - about as many women watch porn as men (in my generation at least). And i think the main way women commit 'grey-area adultery' (like men watching porn) is by flirting with men or trying to get sexual ~attention~ from men. Which is equally as bad.

 

[LittleTimeTrouble]

First off thanks, that's nice of you to say! This is going to be a long response to be comprehensive haha.

I can't speak for all women on this, but for me personally it comes down to respect. My father (who passed a decade ago) made sure to educate my brothers on respect for women and what it means - he knew i was too young to understand so he taught my brothers to teach me. I know I am an invaluable asset to the right man, so I don't waste my time on men that don't have respect for me.
I know god will send the right man for me when I'm ready for him. Until then I'm working on myself to be the right woman for him. I do not want a man that requires me to hold him to that standard - I want a man who holds HIMSELF to that standard. Out of respect for me, himself and god.
Another thing is the man i choose to be my husband, i also choose to be my children's father. Women seek men that resemble their fathers. Would i want my daughter to seek a man that doesn't give her the respect she deserves? Or a son that doesn't respect his woman?

Matthew 5:28 - "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Also side note - about as many women watch porn as men (in my generation at least). And i think the main way women commit 'grey-area adultery' (like men watching porn) is by flirting with men or trying to get sexual ~attention~ from men. Which is equally as bad.

Thanks for the thoughtful response. I assure you that you are correct that your future husband will be lucky indeed. For many reasons, but that you take the responsibility of marriage seriously high among them. I agree with you about a lot of the gray area stuff that most people seem to take for granted these days, and I agree (I think) with your father, who is probably my age, lol, that the loss of respect for marriage is a terrible thing for our society, not only spiritually, but also functionally if you look at the much poorer education outcomes for kids raised in divorced households. There was a recent book written about the topic of “Luxury Beliefs” which the author defines as self indulgent beliefs and behaviors that people wear like jewelry to parties, and which have little material effect on wealthier classes, but when they trickle down into society they are a disaster. Divorce, adultery and out of wedlock child rearing are certainly among them.

I still do, personally, think there is a difference between a lot of this stuff and what you can see on a screen, but I do take your points.

 

[RoidRage69]

Drop him, I would. Don't waste each other's time. Some on here are saying he's done nothing wrong and that is true in some relationships that allow that. But you were not happy. He will not stop watching porn i promise you. You need to decide if you're OK with having a husband that watches porn. If not, let him go. Plenty of men out there won't disappoint you that way.

Its absolutely natural for guys to watch porn. There is nothing wrong with it. Men are always horny. Men also notice hot chicks when they see them in daily life. Its what you do that matters. Watching is not cheating.

 

[RoySimpson]

Who cares!!