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Just got out of 2 year relationship... was lied and cheated on.

I'm good while i'm at work but Nights, weekends and holidays will probably be the most painful for me. When you have memories of living together and you still reside in the place it's much harder. That takes the most time to get over personally. You're literally walking in their footsteps. Empty closet and dressers. Even the smell is almost still there. At times like this i wish i had a roommate. In any case i'm trying my best and i don't mean to sound like a little bitch. I strive to be 5% better each day.

What kills me is the fact that i'm struggling and she is prob spending time with him happy as a clam.
 
Thank you for this post man. You take a very Christian philospehy to life and i salute you for that. I kept this in mind when she came over Tue night with her father to pack up all her belongings at my apartment. I feel like i acted like a mature adult. I shook her fathers hand and asked if we could sit down on the couch and talk while she got things out of the bedroom. I first shook his hand and told him thank you for everything he and his family did for me. Telling him i always thought very highly of him and respected him a lot. I touched on how much i loved his daughter and grew to love her more and more as each day passed. I went on to say that i was so serious about her that i was personally going to ask his permission in a years time to marry her. Then i went on to tell him what exactly she did over the past two months. The cheating and lies. I remained calm and he just listened. I could of got heated but i didn't.

When it came time to talk to her alone before she left i did the same thing. Talked in a civil calm matter, of course i cried and showed my hurt and pain. All she could do is sit there with red eyes and feel bad. Fact of the matter is, idk if she truly felt bad she lied and cheated or if she was sorry she got caught.

When asked "why did you do it" all she could say is "i didn't know what i wanted"…as i type this i'm still shocked that is all she could say.

In the end i walked her outside, got my keys back, gave her a hug goodbye and shut the door to her Dad's car.

My only hope is one day she looks back and realizes how bad she messed up and saw what a true man i really was. How i handled myself when i was in such pain and anger. I hope one day she does reach back out when i am truly 100% over feeling bad and make her feel like she lost the best thing out of her life at the time. I wanted to go out on top and i did.
I got alot of respect for you man. Thats approach is awesome. Remember Gods will is hard to understand but it is also the only will we need. Put your faith in him and allow his will to be seen to help you get through this diffocult time.

Oh and my name is also Josh lol. Is your named after the book of Joshua? If so remember the strength he showed and emulate family.
 
I'm good while i'm at work but Nights, weekends and holidays will probably be the most painful for me. When you have memories of living together and you still reside in the place it's much harder. That takes the most time to get over personally. You're literally walking in their footsteps. Empty closet and dressers. Even the smell is almost still there. At times like this i wish i had a roommate. In any case i'm trying my best and i don't mean to sound like a little bitch. I strive to be 5% better each day.

What kills me is the fact that i'm struggling and she is prob spending time with him happy as a clam.
I feel you bro, before I got sober and found god and the iron my wife left me and it was the hardest time in my life man. I couldnt process the pain. After a couple months, and solid sobriety it got easier. Dont mistake me, it still hurt like no other but it got easier bro.
 
I got alot of respect for you man. Thats approach is awesome. Remember Gods will is hard to understand but it is also the only will we need. Put your faith in him and allow his will to be seen to help you get through this diffocult time.

Oh and my name is also Josh lol. Is your named after the book of Joshua? If so remember the strength he showed and emulate family.

Trust me brother i'm actually glad her Dad was there. If it were just her and I i'm not sure i would of been as mature as i was. Emotions would have elevated and i would of broke down a lot more probably getting angry which could of ended not well. But in any case, it's a blessing he came bc when i look back i really portrayed myself in the best way and light possible. I knew the second they left i would be in pain and i was. What goes thru my mind now is i wonder if that will be the last time i ever see her. I even told her father, you never know what God will bring and perhaps one day i will be eating dinner again at your household in the future. Maybe just one day?

And yes, they named me after the Book of the Bible. My parents strongly suggest me to get more involved in Church and God. It's a very good idea and i know it would bring me more peace. Most men seek counsel of other men, while the Christian should only seek counsel from the Father as he is the only way.

This helps me vent and is a form of therpay for me actually. I'm glad i have this channel and people like you who can help. Perhaps God is working that way right now.
 
Op I had this happen with my kids mother with our 4 and 5 year old. It's sad process and it's one tht I trully believe only time can cure. I believe u have to be strong and move fwd as that is the hardest part. I've learned if it's something you want to work and it's suppose to, it will come back around if you so even allow that. I think your def need time and slowly day by day it will become easier.
 
There you go!

Trust me brother i'm actually glad her Dad was there. If it were just her and I i'm not sure i would of been as mature as i was. Emotions would have elevated and i would of broke down a lot more probably getting angry which could of ended not well. But in any case, it's a blessing he came bc when i look back i really portrayed myself in the best way and light possible. I knew the second they left i would be in pain and i was. What goes thru my mind now is i wonder if that will be the last time i ever see her. I even told her father, you never know what God will bring and perhaps one day i will be eating dinner again at your household in the future. Maybe just one day?

And yes, they named me after the Book of the Bible. My parents strongly suggest me to get more involved in Church and God. It's a very good idea and i know it would bring me more peace. Most men seek counsel of other men, while the Christian should only seek counsel from the Father as he is the only way.

This helps me vent and is a form of therpay for me actually. I'm glad i have this channel and people like you who can help. Perhaps God is working that way right now.

You remained cool and calm through something so heart-wrenching. You have more faith than you think and if dear old dad hadn't been there you probably would be some place else by now.
Brother, get yourself a Christian woman! They may backslide sometimes , but your chances are so much better. The ex-girlfriend has plenty of sowing to do and she's going to leave that golfer dude for another, then another until she becomes an old drawn-up woman. She will never have any children nor will she get married. It's as though she has cursed herself; her life.
This female didn't know what she wanted in the relationship because she's young , dumb, and full of cum buddy! She doesn't want to be tied down and I think she wants to be a "playgirl", slut, whore, whatever. I don't think your age differences were a factor in the relationship. Did she ever say, "I love you", "I want to have your children"? Well 'nuff said.

You must get through this trial on your own. Use prayer to bolster you up, but don't use it as a form of therapy. Your therapy is coming to you now in this present form by you simply writing about it and letting people here know your pain and in so doing, your pain will be eased and eventually it will be tolerable until you can accept it and allow it to go away.
 
You remained cool and calm through something so heart-wrenching. You have more faith than you think and if dear old dad hadn't been there you probably would be some place else by now.
Brother, get yourself a Christian woman! They may backslide sometimes , but your chances are so much better. The ex-girlfriend has plenty of sowing to do and she's going to leave that golfer dude for another, then another until she becomes an old drawn-up woman. She will never have any children nor will she get married. It's as though she has cursed herself; her life.
This female didn't know what she wanted in the relationship because she's young , dumb, and full of cum buddy! She doesn't want to be tied down and I think she wants to be a "playgirl", slut, whore, whatever. I don't think your age differences were a factor in the relationship. Did she ever say, "I love you", "I want to have your children"? Well 'nuff said.

You must get through this trial on your own. Use prayer to bolster you up, but don't use it as a form of therapy. Your therapy is coming to you now in this present form by you simply writing about it and letting people here know your pain and in so doing, your pain will be eased and eventually it will be tolerable until you can accept it and allow it to go away.
^^^^ I agree with you ano. OP faith is key in my relationship. Just food for thought
 
This is my 2nd post to this forum and from what i've seen everyone here is very friendly and it almost seems as a family type atmosphere which i like. In any case, i'm going through one of the toughest times of my life right now and i need some help. I know i'm talking to complete and utter strangers but i know all of us are men and have been through trials and tribulations. So if my story speaks to any of you on a personal level please chime in and offer some wisdom for me….

she's cheating on you bro.
 
Listen Bro, just move on.
Not to be Harsh, but the Signs were All There, you just Refused to See Them.

For Future Reference, when a Woman says she needs Room, or Starts Seeing you less, She's Cheating already.
Plus, she already Cheated on You, so what did you think had Changed.

Some Women are Dogs, just like Us...................................... JP
P.S.
Don't Worry, there's a Good Woman out there !

fixed your post.

As for your "P.S." you are right. There's a Good Woman out there. But I already got her. Sorry bros. ;) LOL!
 
Don't let this bitch eat you alive like this. She ain't shit.

This is true. Here is a graph to prove it:

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