Staying Focused

[obsessedwliftin]

Hey guys just wanted to hear some ways you guys stay focused when outside crap interferes with your training. I love to train, as most of you know, but when Sh*t happens in your life how, do you re-focus your attention away from that? Basically not to let it affect your training diet and goals?

 

[kdc1023]

Hey guys just wanted to hear some ways you guys stay focused when outside crap interferes with your training. I love to train, as most of you know, but when Sh*t happens in your life how, do you re-focus your attention away from that? Basically not to let it affect your training diet and goals?

I like to think to myself that I have come so far and trained so hard so why let myself get distracted by stuff that comes along the way. Music is also good for this. I always have crazy stress and distractions going on in my life but I notice that If I don't get to train things can start to get overwhelming. Watching a motivational bodybuilding video is a good idea also to get you in the mood. I hope I helped some.

 

[obsessedwliftin]

I like to think to myself that I have come so far and trained so hard so why let myself get distracted by stuff that comes along the way. Music is also good for this. I always have crazy stress and distractions going on in my life but I notice that If I don't get to train things can start to get overwhelming. Watching a motivational bodybuilding video is a good idea also to get you in the mood. I hope I helped some.

Definite help bro! Thats what I am talking about. All of us have different things going on in our lives and I know I have worked my as* off for what i have gained. That being said my motivation is just in the shi**er right now. And I hate it.........:angry:

 

[kdc1023]

Definite help bro! Thats what I am talking about. All of us have different things going on in our lives and I know I have worked my as* off for what i have gained. That being said my motivation is just in the shi**er right now. And I hate it.........:angry:

Ya man we all have slumps like that but whats important to remember is you will get through it one way or another. I'm not sure if you've read this quote before but it sure as hell motivates me when I'm down.

"The Iron never lies to you. You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk,
get told that you're a god or a total bastard. The Iron will always kick you the real deal.
The Iron is the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. Always there
like a beacon in the pitch black.
I have found the Iron to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs.
Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is
always two hundred pounds."

Also you know if you feel unmotivated it isn't necessarily a bad idea to take a few days off and let your mind and body recovery. All that stuff will only help you in the long run.

 

[obsessedwliftin]

Ya man we all have slumps like that but whats important to remember is you will get through it one way or another. I'm not sure if you've read this quote before but it sure as hell motivates me when I'm down.

"The Iron never lies to you. You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk,
get told that you're a god or a total bastard. The Iron will always kick you the real deal.
The Iron is the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. Always there
like a beacon in the pitch black.
I have found the Iron to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs.
Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is
always two hundred pounds."

Also you know if you feel unmotivated it isn't necessarily a bad idea to take a few days off and let your mind and body recovery. All that stuff will only help you in the long run.

Copy and pasted that one to word bro! Thank you for all the help!

 

[Melaina]

The best thing to do is allow the gym to be your outlet for anger.

 

[obsessedwliftin]

The best thing to do is allow the gym to be your outlet for anger.

Very good point. And in any other situation that would be exactly what id do. This is totally different. Not to sound like Im whining, but me and my girl decided to take some steps back this weekend. Alot going on in her life right now. When you go from having someone there all the damn time telling you they love you more than anything in the world and want to spend the rest of your life together. To: I have to focus on something different right now and need you to understand that? It fu*ked my head up plain and simple. Normally with a female id be like great, do what you gotta do and we will hook up or whatever, but i actually let myself care for this one and right this minute I am paying the price for it. Cant seem to refocus and keep doing my thing. First time in my life that I havent been able to do so. WoW!

 

[rahl]

Very good point. And in any other situation that would be exactly what id do. This is totally different. Not to sound like Im whining, but me and my girl decided to take some steps back this weekend. Alot going on in her life right now. When you go from having someone there all the damn time telling you they love you more than anything in the world and want to spend the rest of your life together. To: I have to focus on something different right now and need you to understand that? It fu*ked my head up plain and simple. Normally with a female id be like great, do what you gotta do and we will hook up or whatever, but i actually let myself care for this one and right this minute I am paying the price for it. Cant seem to refocus and keep doing my thing. First time in my life that I havent been able to do so. WoW!

That's tough bro. When somebody you care about steps out it definitely knocks you off your game. I choose to get angry about the situation and then channel that anger into the gym. When I'm not there I try to not think about it until it's almost time to hit it. Hope that made sense. Anyway, I know what you're going through bro and I'm sure most of us do. You are not alone so just keep asking for ideas until we give you one you like!

 

[niight]

Very good point. And in any other situation that would be exactly what id do. This is totally different. Not to sound like Im whining, but me and my girl decided to take some steps back this weekend. Alot going on in her life right now. When you go from having someone there all the damn time telling you they love you more than anything in the world and want to spend the rest of your life together. To: I have to focus on something different right now and need you to understand that? It fu*ked my head up plain and simple. Normally with a female id be like great, do what you gotta do and we will hook up or whatever, but i actually let myself care for this one and right this minute I am paying the price for it. Cant seem to refocus and keep doing my thing. First time in my life that I havent been able to do so. WoW!

You know to me that would have to be the most distracting thing I can think of, I do feel for ya bro, thats a tuff pill to swallow. Like what others have said get some rockin music and some anger and kill that shit in the gym. Then when your completely drained and sitting at home relax and reflect on whats happening in your life. I do hope things work out for ya though. /peace

 

[obsessedwliftin]

That's tough bro. When somebody you care about steps out it definitely knocks you off your game. I choose to get angry about the situation and then channel that anger into the gym. When I'm not there I try to not think about it until it's almost time to hit it. Hope that made sense. Anyway, I know what you're going through bro and I'm sure most of us do. You are not alone so just keep asking for ideas until we give you one you like!

Rahl that does make sense sir. See I have been in recovery for a while. Sober ya know? She decided she wants to do the same. Greatest decision for her to ever make. Right now she is only 65 days into the program and really doesnt need any distractions. IE me or anyone else to take her focus off of what she is trying to achieve. Point I am trying to make is that I cant even be mad at her for this because she is trying to change her life and feels like she needs to do it with us not being as serious as we were. Basically taking some steps back to be able to not have anything messed up in the future. If that makes sense. Still wants me but needs a little time to do this for her. Still calls me like we are together still get the benefits but basically just not spending the night at either my house or her house every night so she can do what she needs to do. I know this maybe confusing and I am really rambling at this point but thats why I needed you guys' advice because i am way to in my own head right now to think. Thank you rahl.

 

[obsessedwliftin]

You know to me that would have to be the most distracting thing I can think of, I do feel for ya bro, thats a tuff pill to swallow. Like what others have said get some rockin music and some anger and kill that shit in the gym. Then when your completely drained and sitting at home relax and reflect on whats happening in your life. I do hope things work out for ya though. /peace

I appreciate it bro and am going to apply some of this for sure. I have come waaaay to far to look back now.

 

[Squataholic]

If you are both trying to stay sober it might be a good idea to step back. Once your emotions for someone get so strong its easy to slip back into old ways. Its nice to have support from someone who is already sober, but it is hard when it is your significant other. I think it is heartbreaking to have to pull back in your feelings and it is something that I still struggle with. Because I always want to feel things intensely and it can get out of hand very easily. All you can do it give it a chance, to see if it is harder or easier on the two of you. Right now I think the most important thing in her life needs to be her sobriety.

 

[obsessedwliftin]

If you are both trying to stay sober it might be a good idea to step back. Once your emotions for someone get so strong its easy to slip back into old ways. Its nice to have support from someone who is already sober, but it is hard when it is your significant other. I think it is heartbreaking to have to pull back in your feelings and it is something that I still struggle with. Because I always want to feel things intensely and it can get out of hand very easily. All you can do it give it a chance, to see if it is harder or easier on the two of you. Right now I think the most important thing in her life needs to be her sobriety.

See and I know that. i sponsor several people. Been at this 15 yrs. And you are exactly right about sobriety being number one priority. Until she has a foundation built. And like i told her, I have to be unselfish and allow this to happen if i truely feel the way i tell you i feel about you. Because when you truely love someone then you have to want the best for them. And like i stated we are not like not speaking and all that stuff. Just she needs to dial back the relationship aspect for a little bit so that she can more focus on herself. Told me that was the hardest decision she ever made. That the only reason she is doing so is that when shes ready we can have a relationship together where she is not bringing her baggage into it. My God why does she have to be right? Sometimes you know the right thing to do and yet selfishness just clouds it all.

 

[rahl]

Rahl that does make sense sir. See I have been in recovery for a while. Sober ya know? She decided she wants to do the same. Greatest decision for her to ever make. Right now she is only 65 days into the program and really doesnt need any distractions. IE me or anyone else to take her focus off of what she is trying to achieve. Point I am trying to make is that I cant even be mad at her for this because she is trying to change her life and feels like she needs to do it with us not being as serious as we were. Basically taking some steps back to be able to not have anything messed up in the future. If that makes sense. Still wants me but needs a little time to do this for her. Still calls me like we are together still get the benefits but basically just not spending the night at either my house or her house every night so she can do what she needs to do. I know this maybe confusing and I am really rambling at this point but thats why I needed you guys' advice because i am way to in my own head right now to think. Thank you rahl.

Anytime bro. That totally makes sense. P.M. or email me anytime you need support bro. Best I can say right now is if you really care about her and you think she's trying to do the right thing you have to let her. Use that. Do it for her. Be strong and abuse some iron in return. Good luck bro.

 

[kdc1023]

Anytime bro. That totally makes sense. P.M. or email me anytime you need support bro. Best I can say right now is if you really care about her and you think she's trying to do the right thing you have to let her. Use that. Do it for her. Be strong and abuse some iron in return. Good luck bro.

Women are gunna make you crazy and distracted your whole life but it sounds to me like you guys are both doing the right thing. It would be best to take Melaina's advice and use the gym as your outsource of anger. Then smoke some medical plants after:40:

 

[RickO'Shea]

I just think I can be better, soooo much better than what I am now. I just push forward. I will not be average.

 

[kdc1023]

I just think I can be better, soooo much better than what I am now. I just push forward. I will not be average.

I feel the same way. I want to stand out among everyone else and be an individual as much as possible. I wanna train the best and be the best all the time.

 

[obsessedwliftin]

I just think I can be better, soooo much better than what I am now. I just push forward. I will not be average.

You know you and I are on the same page with that one sir!

 

[Razor172]

yeah i here you my job made me work 12 hour shifts 7 am till 7 pm and my gym is closed when i get off. so been trying to stay focused at home and its real hard for me. my wife keeps coming to me with shit that happens all day. and i ask her to give me about a hour our so. then i got three teenages 2 girls and a boy so that another story.

 

[Razor172]

thats what i love about a site like this you guys can turn a mans day around quick lol. Im back on my regular shift now which is nights 11pm till 7 am. got to get my diet back to night time and not eating the way i did in the day. that my hard part this week is changing back to my shift.

 

[obsessedwliftin]

thats what i love about a site like this you guys can turn a mans day around quick lol. Im back on my regular shift now which is nights 11pm till 7 am. got to get my diet back to night time and not eating the way i did in the day. that my hard part this week is changing back to my shift.

We are like one big family around here bro. Need to makes sure of that!

 

[Walking Beast]

It can be insanely difficult with certain shit. When you really lose your mind, feel deep pain and shit like that. Most of the time I can train through this. Stimulants and very loud music, and just get fucking insane, focused on KILLING weight. Feed off the adrenaline and pump. Unfortunately this wears off when the training is done, stimulants bring a crash. Then you are back in hell. My problem becomes the eating. At times like this, and other periods in my life, mental devastation has fucked with my diet. Getting in enough food. I hate to fucking eat as is. Fucked up nerves and stomach. My anxiety and rage, adrenaline is always on, never shuts off. Add emotional pain to the shit and eating is like suffocation.

Training is the easy part for me. Got to work on getting to the core of your issues. Analysing the shit from the inside out. Strengthen your mind and transform the way you think. See things from a broader perspective rather then narrow and obsessed with purely negative. Still a bitch to get through shit, but this will speed the process up. Can only block shit out for so long before it comes back full force. Confront everything

KILL THAT SHIT