I’m 46. I was faithfully married for nine years. Before that, I traveled for work and never went home. We’re would stay in hotels and prowl for women to shack up with as soon as we hit a new town. You get good at it. I went home for Christmas one year, and slept with my foreman’s girlfriend’s sister, who told me she was on birth control, but was not.
Sorry brother I missed this yesterday somehow. Wow you're not wrong, we do have a lot in common. This is almost exactly what happened to me.
They always let me out the next day after I sobered up, sometimes billed me on behalf of inn keepers and whatever from the night before.
My corporate Amex at PwC had some interesting charges on it.. can get away with a lot if you frame yourself the right way haha.
It was cool for a long time. Being a dad did a lot for me. After the second kid she got post partum depression (figured this out much later) and we struggled and eventually she was acting out and it was untenable. We had both developed an alcohol problem but she was hiding a much bigger one. She started cheating and I knew right away.
It did a lot for me initially too, I worked full time and we had a big two story house in a nice area in Brisbane in Australia and I finished by 5 and took him and did the rest of the shit with him until he was asleep. Feed her and then retire to my basement and blackout. Was working okay fo a year.
There was no way I was going to work that out. I left because I didn’t want to expose the kids to the extremely toxic environment that had developed. I did try to hold it together for a little bit but there was no way. It was the right thing to do.
Definatly was the right thing to do man. I can't read others very well and it gets me into trouble. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, even when it retrospect I can see there were glaring red flags.
I didn't want my kid exposed to that either, or to be part of that at all. I didn't really have a plan, I left and gave her $3k aud a month (30%) to get a house and stuff for him. We'd already spent about 30k on having him and buying shit. God there's nothing more awful than baby related shopping sprees. It's awful. In the end all she used none of the ahit and I used his harness to walk him sometimes but mostly pushed him around the block on my skateboard while we walked her three fucking dogs she was too lazy to walk.
Why do all fat girls have fucking dogs they don't walk? At least get a fucking cat that can walk itself.
This has happened to me four fucking times now. With a different girlfriend I even paid ($4k all up) to take one over to Australia with us. Paid for it to be put down over there too. Lazy bitch.
At first I was super stoic and believed it was all for the best but it wasn’t long before the court stuff got nasty, I was being dragged through the mud, all of it was my fault everything projected on me, and the whole time she was trying to get me back. When I was alienated from my kids I went off the rails for a bit. Let my previously controlled drug use spiral out of control. Burned my own world down. Went to jail twice. Got my shit together big time and then she finally hit rock bottom and continued to bounce for several years, eventually ending in me becoming a single dad and the kids live with me to this day. They’re 21 and 23.
Exactly the same as me bro. I'm not good at reading people but you don't expect people to lie and say things like that.
It's why I'm just going to log everything in the open here, there's very little everyone doesn't already know anyway. Maybe as well have logs.
I'm glad I gave her that $3k a month via the tax department, she tried to tell someone I didn't pay her one time. She's not as bright as I initially hoped either.
I've never been cheated on but that would be it for me too. I can let pretty much anything slide or accept flaws and shit in others but that's something different.
It's proof that one of your foundational variables is not true and you've built your relationship on a base of lies. I'm proud of you bro, that was 100% the right move for you and your kids. And you were there for them when she finally burnt her life to the ground too.
I’ve had 4? one year + relationships since the divorce some 11 years ago, and dozens of flash in the pans and one night stands and fuck buddies. It’s hard to even think about. Wasted a lot of time
Cool man I just asked so I'd know how to Taylor what I was tonna say, but you already did everything the way I would have anyway.
Ah well man, we will improve our romantic relationships or casual encounters as we prove ourselves following The Path. I'm better at casual relationships than most, honesty and vulnerability gets you soo far in this situation.
Some guys think about "adding another one to thr rotation" or whatever and talk about woman like they are pokemon cards or some shit.
One workmate talked about woman like this so much that when I ran into him with one of them and knew who she was from his office chat I said "Hey Wednesday, I'm John. Nice to meet you" and it got awkward. Turns out her name was Jane, he just fucked her on Wednesdays..
How is this fulfilling? I like to hang out with girls, it's one of my favourite things to do, a core way I get connection with others and human interaction. We want to bang of course but do other shit with them too. Most people are interesting in some way and have something to show you or teach you and you get to try lots of different shit.
One chick I know has a 1984 Toyota Starlet, she picks me up and we go street racing. Scares the shit out of me but there's nothing like the sense of an impending high-speed collision forcing you to accept you're about to die to make you feel alive.
I juggle fire-clubs on the beach with one chick, go hunting at 2nd hand book stores with another, play dressup at the City Mission thrift store with another, then we go to her place and modify them with her sewing machine. Dress each other up, take pictures for the spank-bank later, etc.. its so much fun and obviously not something I cam do with my heterosexual guy friends.
Also when my first van I lived in got stolen I had a lot of places to stay. They were just chicks I met on tinder and had banged a couple of times, but as I was honest about my intentions at the start and made sure they accepted them (many did not too) we really were friends as well, so I could ask. You can't do that with chicks you treat like numbers, they wouldn't even reply I bet.
One chick I picked up by kinda making it look like I could read tarot cards and was in a tricky spot when she got super interested and wanted me to teach her, the lie spiralled so quick I had to come clean and told her about the memorisation system I used to learn Japanese kanji characters, spaced repetition flashcards, and proposed we learn them together with that and that was fun for a while, but she got a boyfriend and we stopped.
I've written books with girls, been to their pole dancing and belly dancing competitions, I went to support one getting into roller derby and ended up joining myself, I could go on... I want way more out of chicks than just banging so I can tell the guys at work about it. That's weaksauce to me.
Shit that got a bit out of hand, sorry bro. Just FYI if you ever need someone to talk to about girls or relationship problems or drinking or anything, I'm available any time.
Guys from meetings call me just to dump random shit out quite often, it's part of how those groups work.
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