Of course it's not a blanket thing. Some do have families and normal lives but most do not. I went though girlfriends like crazy because they would get fed up with me. Competitive bb at a high level makes the bb totally self centered. And I do believe that most high level bbs, myself includ3d, have an addiction to bb drugs and the lifestyle in general. I mean when someone starts selling drugs, risking prison time (something most bb end up doind), or doing things for queers for drug money it's no different than the cracks addict giving blow jobs for crack. I believe that 90% of pro and national level bbs have some sort of mental problem that bb feeds off of. When I was competing I would do anything, without any regard to the consequences, if it would give me an edge. Calling competitive bb a sport is a joke, it's a drug toleratio mm contest. May as well have a contest where you see who can shoot the most heroin without passing out. I know that is extreme but after living the bb life (I places top 5 in npc national contests 5 times) this is how I feel about it. I'm 42 now and wisdom does come with age. If I can stop a young guy from pursuing competitive bb I'm going to speak the truth. Sorry if someone doesn't like it.