@Ulter I totally get where you're coming from and why you feel the way you do. Hearing you tell your story was literally heart breaking, truly. But your views are pretty skewed on women because of you history, which is totally understandable.
Just as a totally neutral outside party here I just wanted to you to hear that.
She's actually the best in the entire world at what she does, so she has to be doing something right, right? So just removing your preconceptions here, using your logical mind, you would agree her training must be great considering her ranking right? You're and engineer, so logic and results are your bread and butter. Taking that approach, isn't it possible that maybe your thoughts are a bit off just cuz of past experiences.
Hopefully hearing an outside voice and looking at it from a different angle helps you see things a bit different bro. Nothing but love, cuz again I know where you're coming from and completely understand.